Notes reflecting upon a model of human experience, human performance and group participation, like in a classroom.
There are three parts to this model. Following upon the learning model, if we want to improve are self-expression and to increase the liklihood of our wanting to express ourselves, and the liklihood of others wanting to hear from us, we might do well to NOTICE whether, in our expression, we are:
clear, in what we say or communicate
accurate, in our statements
appropriate, in what we do and communicate
However, notice that I do not intend these to be drivers, in the sense explained in the psychology of Transactional Analysis.
Sometimes it's appropriate to be vague, inaccurate. And, paradoxically, it may be appropriate to behave in ways that might seem inappropriate. This is so, because all expression is relative, that is, relatively clear, relatively accurate, relatively appropritate.
Drivers are problematic when they become a compulsive part of the human personality. A problematic driver is something we have to do all the time, we seem to have no choice. It's so much a part of us that we think we're born that way. Watch when someone says, well, that's that way I am. Oftentimes they are inadvertantly expressing the fact that they are hooked compulsively on a given way of being or doing things and that they do not want to change. Some drivers for the way we express ourselves can be stated as an indirect rule, an order we give ourselves unconsciously, like:
Be perfect in your expression
To overcome drivers, we invoke allowers. The allowers let us overcome the drivers, and act with more freedom of expression.
In such cases, it's ok
To be vague
To exaggerate or understate
To be out of phase
To be negative or neutral or noncommittal
To be passive
To be imperfect in our expression